Too young to dress old?

I was just listening to Paul O'Grady and Joan Collins mentioned that children dress too old for their age. She mentioned about Tom Cruise's daughter Suri wears high heels. I think that when little girls are young they should be dressed as little girls. Are we dressing our children too old for their ages? Should they wear little bra tops, make up, high heels and provocative t-shirts?

I know I sound old fashioned but I believe children should be allowed to be children while they can as when they grow up they certainly will want to be children again to change a lot of their decisions. Often little girls of around 7 or 9 like to wear make up but should they be doing this. When you are young you often have beautiful, perfect and soft skin so why want to change that.

These days with the Internet and all of the media around you here so much about Paedophiles as years ago it was no doubt hidden behind closed doors but with the Internet it is more commonly known and an easier way of them passing images to each other. If they see a little girl with what looks like a bra top, short skirt and tight t-shirt with a message like porn star on as well as high heels and make up on will this encourage a paedophile? Will they take more interest in the child or will they just ignore it?

I really think that mum's should not be pushed into allowing their daughter's to wear clothing that could give them unwanted attention from the wrong type of people or even unknowingly put them in danger.

What might seem innocent to a child and even to a mum night not be to someone else that could be a danger. I would love to hear everyone's thoughts and comments on this as it is a debate that should maybe be out in the open!

Children Say & Do Funny Things

It is true what they say 'Children do say and do the funniest things'!

My little boy has been doing some funny things lately and sometimes you could just cringe when he does other things you wish he would not! This morning we were writing birthday cards for my cousin who was 40 recently. He has been on holiday so we are waiting for him to get home to send his cards. I asked Louis Adam if he wanted to put a kiss on the card expecting him to put a little x on the bottom but instead he took it literally and kissed the actual card! We could not help but laugh but we did try to explain that a kiss is an x on a card or a letter.

On the way to school today he said "Mummy" and said nothing else so I asked him what he wanted to say so he said "I love you"! This was so cute how he just came out with it those are the best times aren't they?

When I saw his teacher at school today I asked her if he had been good the day before and she told me yes he had been great but there had been one incident. Apparently he had sat next to a little boy, a friend whom did not like salad cream and asked Louis Adam what he had for lunch in his sandwiches. Louis opened his sandwich to show him and he held it up but when his friend turned round it went straight in his friend's face! He then told the dinner lady that Louis's sandwich had gone in his face and it was "WET"! That was the worst bit he did not like the wet part with the salad cream. Apparently he does not like it, it was all really did not like!

I just put my head in my hands and thought oh no! However, they are still friends and there are no hard feelings as it was seen that it had been an accident but on the way home from dropping him off school today I could not stop giggling for solme reason. I think it was funny but a little bit of shame and embaressment made it worse!

So it is true they do say and do funny things but he is only 5 as well though. So what sort of funny things do your children do or say? Love to hear comments!

Bad Nights!

It has been quite a long time since I last wrote on here but it has been quite a busy time. You see my uncle was very ill so we had to travel to Manchester and after he died came home for a week. We then had to go back for the funeral but thankfully my little boy did not seem to understand any of what was happening.

At the hospice they gave him jelly and ice cream and were great with him and the weather was so hot he was able to go into the garden to play. But he would not look at his uncle until he was leaving the hospice the following day. He seemed to know he was so ill and he had trouble recognising him as the man he knew. He always called him Grandad.

One the Sunday morning after he had died he was given jelly and ice cream and a cream egg as it was Easter sunday. He seemed to know there was something really wrong that day and did everything he was told straight away (for a change)!

The following week we did not want to take him to the funeral so thankfully a nursery took him for the day where his younger cousin goes. So this meant he could play all day with him and had a great time.

Thing is how do you explain to a child that the person has died and is not coming back? It is not so easy to do so to a 5 year old. He seemed to understand that his uncle was very poorly and was not going to get any better but last week he took the order of service with his uncle's photograph on from his funeral. He was so proud of his Uncle Colin he had wanted to show his teacher at school! We had looked for it all day and had a feeling he had taken it to school.

The other day he told me that his uncle is better and living next door to his aunty. We have tried to tell him about the angels but he is still struggling with the concept. The problem is that he has been sleeping badly and having nightmares. How much should you really tell children? Should you say that they have gone to the angels or should you say they are on holiday which they could then ask when they will be back? It seems to come down a lot to personal parental choice and the child as to what they can understand and cope with being told. It is not easy to decide as children are so different and unfortunately death is not a thing you can really hide from them totally when a close relation dies.

So we just have to struggle on and see how it goes and hopefully he will realise that his uncle will not be coming back any time soon.

After all children should be allowed to be children and be protected as much as possible from the harsh realities of life!